July 1, 2011
It’s Time I Write A Book

It’s incredible to wake up one morning and find your life completely changed. You aren’t the same person you were yesterday. You’re older, wiser. But you find that the people in your life aren’t the same either. I don’t know if it’s because you have changed or because you both have changed, but somehow¬†you are no longer compatable.

I don’t believe in forcing any relationship to work. Perhaps I’m passive that way. I believe that relationships are work, yes, but they should¬†not be more work than play. It’s true of any relationship that there are ups and downs and topsy turvy times, but those should be minimal and isolated. There are a few people in my life that I will fight to keep there no matter what the circumstances. Most others are disposable and I go into a relationship with someone knowing that at some point they will probably leave. Most go slowly, while others will leave an imprint that will forever scar your life. Those are the ones we most often want to forget. They haunt our dreams and our daily lives. We look at their facebook profiles, twitter feed, we even sometimes wake up hoping today will be the day that they realize that we are a precious gem that can’t be lived without. But alas, this rarely happens and we are left with the scars. I like to believe that somehow we too have scarred there lives. But in reality, it’s always harder to be left than to do the leaving. Eventually though, we wake up one morning and it’s different. There are new changes, good changes. We don’t need the disposable people in our lives anymore. We no longer feel the need to check their facebook profiles daily, we unfollow them on twitter, and we hope they never try to contact us again because we would rather move on than deal with the pain of them reentering our lives and taking us back a few million baby steps.

If you survive those experiences you become stronger. But the thing about survivors is, yes, they are strong, but they are also tramatized, hurt, scarred, and most definitely changed. But in the end, they are the ones who are looking down on everyone else because they have triumphed and they know the true meaning of life, love, and everything else caught in between.

"You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them."-Maya Angelou